Sunday, May 3, 2015

The #1 Reason You Can’t Get What You Want
Written by Jack Canfield

I have spent my whole life studying, living, and teaching the common principles that successful people follow to achieve their goals and create the life of their dreams.

And one thing I’ve noticed is this:

Most people fail at achieving true success because they haven’t clearly defined what “success” means for them.

After all, if you don’t know what you’re looking for, it’s almost impossible to find it! So here’s a question I’d like you to think about...

How do YOU define “success?”

If you answered something like, “making a ton of money,” or “having a big house and fancy car,” or “owning a multimillion dollar company and dominating my industry,” you are thinking way too small. Success isn’t about what you have – it’s about how you feel.

If you wake up every morning excited to dive into what the day holds in store for you, THAT is success. If your heart overflows with joy because of the loving relationships in your life, THAT is success. If you’re living your life in alignment with your highest beliefs and make a positive difference in the world, THAT is success.

Are you living your own definition of success – or someone else’s?

Inside of every one of us is a tiny seed of the “you” that you were meant to become. Unfortunately, you have buried this seed in response to your parents, teachers, coaches, and other adult role models as you were growing up.

Think of all the times you were told...

“Don’t touch that!”

“You don’t really feel that way.”

“You can’t have everything you want.”

“Stop being so selfish!”

“Can’t you think of anyone but yourself?!”

After many years of listening to these kinds of sanctions, most of us eventually lose touch with the needs of our bodies and the desires of our hearts – and got stuck trying to figure out what other people wanted us to do. We learned how to act and how to be to get their approval.
  • We go to medical school because that’s what Dad wanted for us.
  • We get married to please our mother
  • We get a “real job” instead of pursuing a dream career in the arts
In the name of being sensible, we end up becoming numb to our own desires. There are too many layers of “should’s” and “ought to’s” and “you’d better’s” piled on top of and suffocating what you really want.

It’s time to reclaim your vision

So how do you get back to what you really want and reconnect with your true passion with no fear, shame, or inhibition?

You start small by recognizing and honoring your own preferences in every situation. When you are confronted with a choice, no matter how small or insignificant, ask yourself, “What do I really want?”

Remaining unclear about what you want – and making other people’s needs and desires more important than your own – is a habit. You can break it by practicing the opposite habit.

You can also create a list of all the things you love to do – and all the things you want to do, have, and be in your life – and review the list regularly to keep it top of mind. By acknowledging your own wants and desires, you make it possible for yourself to act on them in a much more powerful way.

Jack Canfield, America's #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul©Inspirational Books)© and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at:
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