Sunday, June 28, 2015

The One Invaluable Lesson You Should Teach Your Kids This Summer
Written by Jack Canfield

Wow, can you believe we’re already at the end of June?

If you’re a parent with school-aged kids, this means they’re home for the holidays. What are you going to do with them this summer?

I have an idea – why not teach them one of the most important lessons they’ll ever learn:

HOW TO TAKE 100% RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR LIFE!

If you’ve been following me for a while, you know that I’m a huge advocate for taking 100% responsibility for everything that happens in your life. It’s the first thing I teach people in my book, The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be, and it’s the single most important lesson to learn if you want to live a successful, personally fulfilling life.

And the good news is, you can learn it at any age.

It doesn’t matter how old your kids are – whether they’re still in diapers or attending university – they’re never too young to start learning that THEY have control over what happens in their life, and that they have the power to create whatever kind of experience they want.

What does it mean to take 100% responsibility?

Taking 100% responsibility for your life means acknowledging that YOU create everything that happens to you. YOU are the cause of all of your experiences.

Your children must understand that THEY are the reason they are feeling happy or sad, cowardly or brave, strong or weak, lonely or comforted, like a high achiever or low achiever.

THEY are they only ones who control their destiny and have the power to create the future they want. And the only way they can do this is to give up whining and blaming and complaining and take total responsibility for everything that happens in their life.

The one equation your kids should know (even if they really hate math)

The power of taking 100% responsibility can be summed up in this simple equation:

E+R=O

Event + Response = Outcome


In other words, every outcome you experience in life is the result of how you responded to an earlier event or events.

For example, maybe your kids are tired and grumpy and not having any fun because they didn’t listen to you and go to bed at a decent time.

Maybe your son fell off his skateboard and scraped his knee because he didn’t put on his kneepads like you asked.

Or maybe your daughter doesn’t have enough money to buy the video game she wants because she didn’t do her chores.

Whatever pain or unhappiness they’re feeling isn’t because they live in a cruel or hurtful world, but because their response to a certain event has led to the outcome they’re now dealing with.

EVENT: It’s bedtime

RESPONSE: They decided to stay up late

RESULT: They’re tired, grumpy, and not having fun

EVENT: Skateboarding time

RESPONSE: I’m too cool to wear kneepads

OUTCOME: Skinned knees

EVENT: Chore time

RESPONSE: She ignores her responsibilities

OUTCOME: No new game for her!

Would these kids have achieved a different outcome if they had responded to the event in a different way? Absolutely!

So if your children don’t like the outcomes they’re getting in their lives – whether it’s in the classroom, in sports, in their relationships with their siblings or friends – there are two basic choices they can make:
  1. They can blame the events (E) for whatever anger, frustration, or unhappiness they’re feeling (O).
  2. They can change their responses (R) to the events (E)—the way things are—until they get the outcomes (O) you want.
Your children need to know that they have control over only three things in their life—the thoughts they think, the images they visualize, and the actions they take. How they use these three things determines everything they experience.

How do you teach them this invaluable lesson?

If you’re a parent, you know how effective it is to constantly be nagging your kids. (Hint: not at all.)

So how do you teach them to take 100% responsibility – in a way that gets them to listen?

Simple: with love and compassion and a whole lot of patience.

Not by lecturing them or focusing on what they did wrong, but encouraging them to evaluate the situation for themselves and consider what they might have done to get a more favourable outcome.

Here are a couple scenarios to illustrate what I mean:

SCENARIO 1:

Your youngest son comes into the room, crying. “Michael hit me!”

Instead of yelling for your older son to come into the room, you calmly say: “Why did he hit you?”

“For no reason at all!”

“Really? He just hit you out of the blue? You did nothing at all to make him angry?”

He shuffles his feet. “We-ell, I was playing with his water gun.”

“Did he tell you not to play with his water gun?”

“Yes. But he didn’t have to hit me!”

“No, he didn’t, and I’m going to talk to him about that. But you need to recognize the role that YOUR actions played in this situation. Why were you playing with his water gun when he told you not to?”

He shrugs. “I wanted to.”

“Was it worth getting hit?”

“No!”

“So the next time your brother asks you not to do something, are you going listen to him?”

“Yes!”

“All right, lesson learned. Remember, when you keep on doing something that someone has asked you not to do, people are going to get angry. And angry people sometimes lash out by yelling or hitting. Now come over here so I can give you a hug.”

SCENARIO 2:

Your older son walks into the room.

“I hear you hit your brother,” you say.

He scowls. “I didn’t hit him that hard! It was just a tap.”

“It was hard enough to make him cry.”

“Well, he shouldn’t have taken my water gun! I told him not to do it – but he never listens!”

“I know, and I’ve talked to him about that. But right now I’m talking to you and the fact that you lost your temper and actually HIT him. Do you think that was the right thing to do?”

“No,” he mumbles.

“What would have been a better way to handle it?”

He thinks for a moment. “I could have just told him to give it to me. And if he didn’t listen, I could have come and got you to tell him.”

You nod. “Yep, those are better ideas. So what can you do right now that will help you to remember not to lose your temper in the future? After all, you did hit him hard enough to make him cry. If you had an older brother who did that to you, how would that make you feel?”

“Not very good,” he admits. “Maybe I could tell him I was sorry and read him a book to make up for it.”

“That would be nice,” you agree. “Why don’t you go do that?”

He walks out of the room to find his little brother.

SCENARIO 3:

Your teenaged daughter comes home from school clearly upset.

“What’s wrong?” you ask her.

“Nothing,” she says.

“Really? Because you look unhappy about something.”

She doesn’t say anything for a moment, then bursts out: “Winnie Taylor told everyone not to hang out with me anymore because she thinks I kissed Aidan Smith. But I didn’t! I was just talking to him because he’s a friend. And even if I did kiss him, who cares? Winnie and him broke up last month!”

Hoo boy, you think. “So what are you going to do?”

She shrugs miserably. “I don’t know.”

“Well – what outcome do you want? Remember, you’re the only one who’s responsible for what you experience in life.”

She sighs. “I just want everything to go back to normal. I want everyone to stop talking about me and acting stupid.”

You nod. “So what can YOU do to make that happen? The only things you have control over are the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take.”

She thinks for a moment. “I guess I could change my thoughts by telling myself not to worry about it too much. Maybe if I treat it as no big deal, it won’t become a big deal. Winnie does this kind of stuff all the time. Last month she told everyone to stop hanging out with Simone – and that blew over in a couple of weeks.”

“That’s a good idea,” you agree. “So what could you visualize?”

“Me having fun with my friends,” she says, brightening. “Especially Amber and Leah. They’re my best friends, anyway – and they know Winnie is full of it. Who cares what anyone else thinks?”

“Good point! So what action can you take?”

“I’m going to text Amber and Leah and see if they want to hang out tomorrow. And I’ll just ignore everyone who’s acting weird. It’s their problem, not mine. And if anyone asks me about Aidan, I’ll laugh it off and say we’re just friends. It IS the truth, after all.”

She gives you a hug then runs upstairs to text her friends.

Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day

Learning how to take 100% responsibility for your life is difficult for most ADULTS to do. So don’t expect your kids to become experts at it overnight!

Be patient as you teach them this invaluable life lesson – and with every conflict, crisis, or opportunity that comes their way – encourage them to remember the E+R=O formula and apply it to the situation in a way that will ensure they get the best possible outcome.

It takes time for this way of approaching life to become second nature – which is why the sooner you encourage your kids to start thinking this way, the better. If you’re persistent, they WILL pick it up – and you will have helped them master a powerful lesson that will place them firmly on the path to creating a successful, fulfilling life for themselves.

I think all of us parents have to work together to create future generations that will make the world a better place.

Jack Canfield, America's #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul©Inspirational Books)© and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com/.

Sunday, June 21, 2015

The One Thing That Determines How Successful You Can Be
Written by Jim Rohn

No one else “makes us angry.” We make ourselves angry when we surrender control of our attitude.

The one thing that determines the level of our potential, produces the intensity of our activity and predicts the quality of the result we receive—our attitude.

Attitude determines how much of the future we are allowed to see. It decides the size of our dreams and influences our determination when we are faced with new challenges.

No other person on earth has dominion over our attitude. People can affect our attitude by teaching us poor thinking habits or unintentionally misinforming us, or providing us with negative sources of influence, but no one can control our attitude unless we voluntarily surrender that control.

No one else “makes us angry.” We make ourselves angry when we surrender control of our attitude. What someone else may have done is irrelevant. We choose; not they. They merely put our attitude to a test. If we select a volatile attitude by becoming hostile, angry, jealous or suspicious, then we have failed the test. If we condemn ourselves by believing that we are unworthy, then again, we have failed the test.

If we care at all about ourselves, then we must accept full responsibility for our own feelings. We must learn to guard against those feelings that have the capacity to lead our attitude down the wrong path, and to strengthen those feelings that can lead us confidently into a better future.

If we want to receive the rewards the future holds in trust for us, then we must exercise the most important choice given to us as members of the human race by maintaining total dominion over our attitude. Our attitude is an asset, a treasure of great value that must be protected accordingly.

When you have the right attitude, you can do the remarkable.

Having the right attitude is an essential prerequisite for success and happiness. The right attitude is one of the fundamentals of the good life. That is why we must constantly examine our feelings about our role in the world and about our possibilities for achieving our dreams.

It is our emotional nature that governs most of our daily conduct in our personal and business world. It is the emotional aspect of our experiences that determines our behavior. How we feel about life’s events is a powerful force that can either freeze us in our tracks or inspire us to take immediate action on any given day. With the right attitude, human beings can move mountains. With the wrong attitude, they can be crushed by the smallest grain of sand.

Jim Rohn, America's Foremost Business Philosopher, reprinted with permission from Jim Rohn International © 2015. As a world-renowned author and success expert, Jim Rohn touched millions of lives during his 46-year career as a motivational speaker and messenger of positive life change. For more information on Jim and his popular personal achievement resources or to subscribe to the weekly Jim Rohn Newsletter, visit www.JimRohn.com.

Sunday, June 14, 2015

How to BECOME Wealthy
Written by Darren Hardy

Aside from temporary setbacks and extraordinary fortunes of inheritance or luck, if you want to know how people feel about themselves, look at their bank accounts.

MONEY is the greatest measurement of one’s mindset.

This is probably why there is so much emotion and neurosis tied to people’s relationship with money. That is why I say if you want to fix your money problems, get your head examined. It’s your attitude about money that will rake it in or repel it from you. Your money, and your mentality about it is what we are going to focus on. I am going to help you Look Within so you don’t Go Without.

In the book The Instant Millionaire by Mark Fisher, the old millionaire asks the boy who has sought his advice, “Why aren’t you rich already?”
Hey, that’s a good question to ask yourself.

We live in an era of unprecedented wealth and opportunity. More people have become wealthy in the last 20 years than any other time in human history—why haven’t you? Seriously, write that question down and answer it. “Why am I not wealthy?”

Your answer to this question will reveal a lot about yourself. Your answers will expose your self-limiting beliefs, your doubts, your fears, your excuses, your rationalizations and maybe some justifications.

You see, we need to Reprogram Your Mental Hard Drive.
One of the greatest limitations to achieving financial abundance is a deep-seated belief that somehow money is wrong and people who have a lot of it are inherently evil. This belief is invented fiction. It goes back to early childhood conditioning when a growing child is often told this because of other people’s envy or desire to rationalize away their own financial failures.

The fact is money is good.
It takes money to build hospitals, churches and shelters. Money is also needed to buy homes, cars, clothes, food, vacations and other glorious experiences in life. Life is limitless abundance.

To acquire money is not to take it away from someone else. Money is granted to the creator, the one who has built something where nothing existed before. Money is the instrument of exchange for valued production. Money is earned only by the producer. The accumulation of wealth is accomplished only by consistently applied effort and discipline.

Money has an energy of its own, and it is largely attracted to people who understand its virtues and respect its power. Money tends to flow toward those people who can use it in the most productive ways to produce valuable goods and services, and who can invest it to create employment and opportunities that benefit others. At the same time, money flows away from those who use it poorly, or who spend it in nonproductive ways.

THUS, To Have More, You Must Become More. You have heard the phrase, “water seeks its own level,” right? Fortunately, or unfortunately (depending on your level), the same is true about money. Money will meet you where you are. Stated another way, your net worth will equal your self-worth. These are not just clever quips, they are wise truths—and stark realities for some.

So let me ask you, what would make you happy and boost your sense of well-being?
You might be surprised. You may realize you really don’t require any more money than you already have. Sometimes a simple change in attitude is all that’s needed to feel good about your life.

People often think, “If only I could get a promotion or a new car, I’d be happy.”
I want you to take inventory of the great wealth you already have. Ask yourself, “What do I feel grateful for in my life?”
Take a couple of minutes to write it down.

Now, if you were to show that list to most people around the world and they will indeed call you wealthy. You see, wealthy is a matter of context and perspective which ultimately creates a feeling. Feel thankful for all you have, and you will feel instantly wealthy.

Here’s the trick, once you feel wealthy you will continue to think wealthy and act wealthy, and it will charge the magnet that will attract more wealth to you.

People become wealthy because they DECIDE to become wealthy.
Those who believe they can become wealthy and are worthy of great financial wealth are the ones who will be. Because they believe this completely, they act accordingly. They consistently take the necessary actions that turn their beliefs into realities.

I want you to decide now that you ARE worthy of great wealth, and it will be your first step toward great prosperity.

Anywhere in the western world, and beyond, opportunity is everywhere. No matter where you look, you will find someone pursuing their dream and being rewarded with great abundance. For centuries, people have sacrificed life and limb just to get us to this point. You are here.

People with far more difficulties and much greater obstacles and limitations have gone on to become incredibly wealthy—why NOT you? People who are less intelligent, poorer, who had more difficult childhoods, fewer privileges and no support have gone on to make great fortunes. So can you.

If you think you can, you will.
Your attitude will determine your destiny.

So here are 5 Tips to Improve Your Wealth Attitude:
  1. Write down all that you are grateful for in your life right now—read it every day.
  2. Make a decision that you will be wealthy. Affirm that decision every day by taking ACTION in that direction.
  3. Surround yourself with the people who are where you want to be financially.Read and listen to material (like SUCCESS!) that will support your new outlook and attitude about what’s possible.
  4. Read and listen to material (like SUCCESS!) that will support your new outlook and attitude about what’s possible.
  5. Teach others the attitudes of wealth. Once you teach it, you will learn it.
Let’s get to adjusting your mindsets and attitudes about money so that they become the magnets you need to get the money flowing to you instead of away from you.

Content republished with permission from Darren Hardy, Publisher of SUCCESS magazine. For more great insights, tips and strategies on success and achievement go to http://DarrenHardy.SUCCESS.com. More about Darren Hardy can be found at: http://DarrenHardy.SUCCESS.com/About.

Sunday, June 7, 2015

A Story About 3 Neighbors and Dollar Cost Averaging

To become a successful investor it is important to weather all of the fluctuations in the market and be discipline enough to withstand those temptations to sell when the market is dropping and to get back in the market when the market is booming. I mean you wouldn't want to buy high and sell low would you? That would go against all of the sage investment advice we were ever given all our lives.

By using Dollar Cost Averaging and simply investing a fixed amount of money at regular intervals over a period of time, you can really increase your odds of success by using of all of the ups and downs in the market to your advantage. Many of you are already unknowingly using this concept. If you are contributing to a 401(k) or 403(b) at work, you are participating in Dollar Cost Averaging.

In the following video I will visually demonstrate how Dollar Cost Averaging works by comparing the investment decisions of three different neighbors.

I hope you enjoy and please leave me your comments below!



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